Ok, so while the main subject is not officially book related, this post was inspired by something I read. I recently finished Ghost Town by Rachel Caine (great book by the way) and toward the beginning there is a scene between Clare and Shane where she is getting ready for class and he stalls her a bit. She then goes to take a longer than normal shower from what she is used to. Then as she debates on washing her breakfast dishes she decides not to and leaves them for Shane to do, since it is (in her opinion) his fault she is running late.
My questioning is this: Why do we blame others whenever we run late. Yes, in this book Shane held her up a few minutes, but she had time for a long shower? Um...no. I know sometimes we can point the finger somewhere else but it seems most of the time it is our fault. We sleep in during the morning then blame kids, pets, traffic etc when we are late. We can spend a long time shopping, just simply browsing but can get utterly bent out of shape when stuck in the checkout line.
I use 'we' loosely. Some are more prone to finger point than others but it seems to be a rising trend. To avoid taking responsibility for our time and actions. Why do we do this? Why blame others for our choices of how we utilize the time we are given? Does this happen a lot to you? Have you seen this happen to others or know others who do this regularly? Leave me your thoughts!
I think it's because when you blame yourself, you get eaten up by shame.
ReplyDeleteHmm. I think I tend to feel more shameful blaming others. I just feel angry at myself usually when I hold myself responsible.
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